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The ability to go the Facebook pages of other players is a part of the game functionality. Incognito mode is a bit different thing. 

"Privacy mode or "private browsing" or "incognito mode" is a privacy feature in some web browsers to disable browsing history and the web cache. This allows a person to browse the Web without storing local data that could be retrieved at a later date. Privacy mode will also disable the storage of data in cookies and Flash cookies. This privacy protection is only on the local computing device as it is still possible to identify frequented websites by associating the IP address at the web server." (info from Wikipedia)

Incognito said:

You seem to have misunderstood my post. Indognito mode is a NORDS game feature that used to allow one to prevent other players from going to our stronghold, clicking the "open page" from the dropdown list and being linked to the person's facebook page. If the person had incognito mode on however, the person looking in their stronghold did not have "open page" as an option. This no longer works as intended...even with incognito mode turned on, someone is still able to link to my facebook page.

Hello, Lord! I have contacted you via private messages. Please check it and specify the requested data.

Please make sure you have Incognito mode activated in your account settings.